The Re-Membering Process™

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The Re-Membering Process™

Grief doesn't need to be fixed. It needs to be witnessed.

Something happens when we lose what we love. We come apart. Not because we are broken — but because love is that real, and loss is that deep. The body knows it. The spirit knows it. And no amount of stages, steps, or timelines can contain what the soul is actually moving through.

The Re-Membering Process™ was born from that truth.

Developed by Rev. Dr. Jamie Eaddy — womanist pastoral theologian, thanatologist, and grief scholar — The Re-Membering Process™ is a nine-movement framework for befriending grief and welcoming lament. It draws from the deep wells of African diasporic wisdom, womanist theology, somatic healing, and liberationist spiritual care. It was built for and by communities who have always known that grief is communal, that lament is sacred, and that healing is not linear.

The hyphen in Re-Membering is intentional. This is not simply about remembering what was lost. It is about putting the members back together — the self, the community, the ancestors, the body, the spirit. It is about reconstituting what grief has scattered.

The Nine Movements

Recognition — Reflection — Reconnection — Rewind — Relief — Release — Rediscovery — Re-Imagining — Ritual

Each movement is a threshold. Each one asks something of you. Together they form a sacred passage — not out of grief, but more fully into yourself. The work moves through conversation, meditation, ritual, somatic practice, creative expression, and communal witnessing. Nothing is rushed. Everything is held.

Who This Is For

This is for the one who is tired of being told to move on. The one who has been strong for everyone else and doesn't know how to fall apart safely. The one sitting with a loss that has no name — not just death, but divorce, displacement, the dream that didn't come, the body that changed, the relationship that dissolved, the version of yourself you had to leave behind.

This is for the organization navigating transition and needing language for what the collective body is carrying. For the congregation that wants more than a bereavement committee. For the community that knows its grief is old and layered and deserves a real container.

This is for anyone who has ever sensed that grief, entered fully and with accompaniment, might actually be a portal — to healing, to self-knowledge, to something new.

The Re-Membering Process™ is available for:

Faith communities and congregations — Community organizations — Bereavement and wellness programs — Facilitator training and certification

Rooted in BeFriending Grief. Grounded in Welcoming Lament.